What does a mother want? – The eternal health and happiness of her child.

What does a child want? – To be safe with their mother and receive her eternal love.

Well, while this is the case, I don’t understand why psychologists, even those who haven’t raised a child, get involved in the situation and try to change a mother’s instincts, and try to separate them from each other. Maybe the way our brains work fed their fears and they got defensive, I don’t know. Being aware is the first detour to the solution of every problem, I say see this and follow your own awareness.

I am one of those many people who started reading books before my daughter was born. I would take notes, underline important parts and then come back to it over and over. It didn’t change when she was born. During long breastfeeding times, I tried to accept those who wrote books as an authority and do what I was told. But then I realised that all this was increasing my stress levels. “I can’t”, “It doesn’t work”, “I don’t feel like it”. Motherhood is a natural thing and no one should interfere in this special chain of love… Do not get involved, as long as this chain of love continues without breaking. Of course, on the other hand, It is very important making sure that your little one is safe. I didn’t lay next to her when she was a baby because I found it unsafe.

It was better to have her cot next to me. But what did I do when it was time to put my daughter in her room? I slept next to her, ensuring that she was safe. After she was safely asleep, I got up and left the room. I wanted it that way because… as ‘big adults’ we sleep together with our husband and wife, and that baby is alone in their room… It seems bizarre to me. My daughter can sleep with us whenever she wants, or we can sleep in her bed whenever we want… isn’t that the natural thing? That’s why I always say think about yourself when buying a bed for your child.

Hey, those who think to know it all, don’t get in the way of this pure love bond :)… The more a child is loved, cared and appreciated, the more self-confident they will be and when they become an adult, they will be independent children.